That dating app message exchange where he called me Gorgeous three times in a row and didn't realize it (and yes, it was capitalized).
That time where I went to a dating event and one guy told me my shirt made him think I lived "up north somewhere, maybe in Canada" and another told me that he was "trying to figure out what my personality was by my shirt" and when I asked, he said: "I'm thinking witch."
That guy who texted me a week after our date with "I really enjoyed meeting & hanging out w you but I think going forward I could be down for lower expectations. I just don’t wanna like plan and make reservations + try to appear impressive. If you wanna plan something though, I’d be down."
Every time something lame happened to me while trying to date, I'd post about on my Facebook page to my friends with the hashtag "#single" almost as an explanation. Or maybe a punch line to bad joke. It was starting to get so comical to my friends that people started telling me I should publish a book.
Nah, I thought. Who honestly would want to read a book about failed dates? That's so depressing.
Then a friend suggested a podcast instead.
Nah, I thought. There's already a million podcasts about dating and being single.
But the more I thought about it... I realized two things. First, I wanted people to know that there are single women out there that are attractive and educated and intelligent and well-traveled and independent and fierce AF and bosses and great conversationalists - in short, the full freaking package. That these women are full of value and by society's standards, should be swept off the market by any self-respecting partner ASAP. So I was curious about where the disconnect in online dating is happening in the 21st century.
But secondly, I wanted to make sure people knew that these single women - me included - are happy. Yes, we may be looking for a partner, but we love our lives and our friends and our work and our families and we're not crying at home in our pillows each night. That contrary to popular belief, it's OKAY to be single and not paired up. I wanted to destigmatize the word "Single" as a negative state and fully embrace badass, strong, independent women who are alone and okay about it.
And the best way to do both was to have honest conversations with other single women about their dating lives and their feelings around dating today.
And so, #single was born.
FOSTER A GREAT SENSE OF COMMUNITY TO CREATE A BINGEABLE PODCAST WITH JEANETTE BONNER OF #SINGLE
As part of my series of interviews about “5 things you need to know to create a very bingeable podcast”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jeanette Bonner, award-winning producer working in narrative film, theater, digital content, reality and podcast.